I recently heard something that made me consider how destructive positive thinking can be. Thanks, in part, due to the self-development planet, so many people believe that they need to have positive thoughts all of the time.
And, if they do not, something bad will happen; with negative ideas being seen as the reason why bad things have happened in their life. It is then not likely to be much of a surprise for someone like this to become obsessed with what is occurring in their head.
Instead of being able to be in the moment, they’ll be caught up with whether or not they are having the right thoughts. This can not just create lots of anxiety, it can also cause them to feel guilty whenever they slip up.
I’ve written a number of articles over the years that go into the’negative’ side of positive thinking.
The Main Point
However, even though what I heard did make me think about how damaging positive thinking can be, this wasn’t the main thing that crossed my mind. What crossed my mind was how positive thinking was among the things which may stop someone from falling down.
This may sound like as good thing, however, as falling right down and hitting rock bottom can seem to be something which has to be avoided in any way coasts. After all, life is all about feeling good and climbing to the top, right!?
One way to comprehend how falling down could be positive is to think about how trees often have to be cut back to be able to grow in the ideal way. If certain braches were permitted to grow and were not dealt with, it would stop a tree from being able to grow large and strong.
The reason for this is that the nutrients would end up being sent to a lot of unique braches instead of the main trunk. In the exact same way, if someone is not knocked down to the floor and they try to carry on as they are, it also can stop them from having the ability to reach their potential.
When it comes to a human being, it will not be that the nutrients are being directed to the wrong body parts; it will be that energy has been directed to parts of the life as well as an identity that no longer serve them. Yet, thanks to their need to remain positive and/or taking things which will stop them from falling right down emotionally, it is going to keep the inauthentic life that they are living alive.
In precisely the same manner that scaffolding will stop a rotten building from falling down, trying to stay positive, running from one empty relationship to another, drinking, taking drugs, having casual sex or a lot of other things will stop them from crashing down. However, although their mind will do everything it can to prevent this from occurring; this could be exactly what they need to transform their life to go from a mean existence, to a great existence and to fully embrace who they are.
When someone completely falls down it can feel as though they are going through hell, and they might wonder if they will ever rise up again. This is very likely to show they are in plenty of emotional pain, pain which has likely been locked within them since their early years.
The good thing is that when they’re down and are no longer resisting how they’re feeling, it is going to give them the opportunity to slowly develop a life and an identity that reflect who they are. But, before this takes place, they will almost certainly have a good deal of baggage to manage.
A Number of Years Ago
This is something that I went through at the beginning of 2013, after I have tried to keep it all together for so long.
The work that I had done up until that point had just decorated the false-self that I had formed; it hadn’t allowed me to get in touch with my true essence. Still, I was ready to go deeper at that point and what I’d learnt prepared me for what I needed to undergo.
There were moments when I wondered if I’d ever be able to function again, let alone rise up. The false-self that had been set up since I was a kid had cracked open and I was no longer willing to play the same roles.
Patience and Persistence
I believed that there was a way for me to get myself out of the hole I was in.
There were ups and there were downs but I kept going, and this meant that I slowly came across the information and support that I needed. This time in my life did provide me with a lot of insights, but that does not mean that I would want to go through it all again.
I want to be clear, however, that this does not mean I am now living the perfect life. But what it does mean is that I have come a long way and I know what it feels like to experience inner peace.
So, if you’ve hit rock bottom, have a moment to consider that you have what it takes to rise up. The main thing is that you do what you can to surrender to what is going on and to reach out for support if you need it.